then what's wrong with anyone honestly strives to seek for their ideal companion? your statement here seemed to contradict what you said at the first place.
you have indicated here that every jack should have his own jill, if you truly meant what you said here, you should not have said what you said earlier. everyone including yourself deserves a fair chance to choose how they find their love.
if you have anything creative and encouraging, be my guest, otherwise i won't go on with you like this again. chinese surviving in an alien country is a big job already, we should all help out when needed, never look down on your own brothers and sisters, you may one day need help and i believe you will get help if you treat others with respect now.

TO:Tianjin
I don't know why you have prejudice against me.
Love is not about running into each other in crowds. Love is an impossible meeting. For example, I am a bird flying in sky, u r a leopard in forest. We just fall in love accidentally.
People will always change. Some choose to change the environment; some choose to be changed by the environment. Most of the time when u cannot change, u have to choose to find something to make yourself happy.
I always believe that there exists a place where reality can not find me. there, the dream is very close. Just as I believe that there will always be someone in the crowd that u will remember forever until u die. U can recognize her immediately. I often have the same dream. In the dream, I am running and searching. They say I shall have more courage and more luck to reach that place and find that person. Maybe I have to take a risk, coz maybe I will die in the way of searching. So dare u to go? There is someplace that u once go and would not like to leave and some one that u would only meet once in ur whole life.

If you do not mind :D I am willing to do your friends!

我也支持你。

我也是一个男人，自己觉得nichole这样的女人(或者是女孩子)如此的急于结婚只可能有以下方面的原因：1。年纪偏大，急于出嫁；2。受过感情欺骗，内心极度空虚。3。想找一个在美国的男子，借以出国(如果这个女孩不在美国)。4。其它不可告人的原因。本人并不是说 nihcole 一定是这样的女孩，但是这样的女孩是在网络上出镜率是最高的，更有些风尘女子装做纯真的事例很多。在这点上，我同意上面tianjin的说法，实际上好的女孩子(不只是漂亮)是没有几个剩下的，剩下的都是有原因的，而原因是因为大多数的男人受不了这样的女孩子。在这个基础上，我觉得nichole，你要是真的是你自己认为的好的女孩子(只有你自己认为还不行)，那你应该有信心，否则请记住，没有男人喜欢在网络上乱碰去找到自己今生的另一半的(也许找情人还可以)。
最后重申的是，nichole 说tianjin不会尊重人的问题，我觉得言之过重，tianjin没有说错得地方，只是说的比较直接，而在 nichole的回答中也可以映射出，nichole并不是像自己说的那么的完美。
以上的观点并不完全局限于个人，我想对当今年轻男女都有共性的一面。
希望大家好运，遇见自己真心的一半。